The Importance of Sexual Intimacy as We Age
Accept yourself for who you are today – and love and appreciate your older self
Chances are you know more about yourself and what excites you now than you did in your twenties. Let go of old expectations and try not to focus on what’s different. Yes, your body looks different, but know these changes are natural. Do not allow them to chip away at your self-esteem. Confidence and a positive attitude are attractive qualities and often lead to a more satisfying sex life.
Focus more on physical touch than intercourse
A good sex life at any age involves a whole lot more than just sex. Tenderness and contact are equally important, and perhaps more so as you age. Instead of focusing on what you think sex “should” be, try to take the pressure off by letting go of old ideas. Even those with physical disabilities can benefit from closeness with another individual. Hold hands and touch your partner, and encourage them to touch you.
As this phase of life often allows more time than was available in our earlier years, take your time making love to become more intimate. If you find it helps to relax with your partner before engaging in a physical relationship, find something that relieves stress for both of you. A couples massage or a long bath together are two suggestions that work well for many. Spend more time on foreplay if you find it takes longer for one of you to become aroused now than in the past.
Communicate well and often