Sex at 50 Plus: New Challenges, New Satisfactions -

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Is satisfying and enjoyable sex at age 50 plus impossible? No – absolutely not! Studies conducted over the last two decades show older adults have sex well in their golden years. If physically healthy and active, including sexually, people don’t tend to lose their passion. The desire for physical contact with another human being doesn’t diminish with age.

The Nature of Intimacy as We Age

We still crave intimacy as we age, but the nature of it evolves. Our bodies inevitably change when we grow older, and as a result, our sex lives change. Sex may not necessarily lead to intercourse as was generally the case when we were younger.

For some, sex becomes more passionate and comfortable as we age. Simple acts of affection such as a hug, a kiss, or just lying close together in bed can be very meaningful. There are fewer distractions, more time and privacy, and no worries about pregnancy. Perhaps more importantly, couples in long-term relationships often share a special bond.

Maintaining a Good Sex Life Takes Work

Maintaining a good sex life is not always easy; it takes work. Sexuality is a balance of emotional and physical issues.

Unresolved relationship issues can cause sex-related problems. How you feel may affect what you want to do, and what you can do. And as we age, our bodies change, including our weight, skin, and muscle tone and some of us worry we are no longer attractive to our partners. It’s essential to discuss your feelings openly, and if talking is difficult for you as a couple, think about seeing a therapist.

You Are Not Alone

Know that you are not alone. Physical issues affecting intimacy are fairly common in older adults. Some medications such as those used to treat high blood pressure and depression can reduce libido. Passion is not as strong as testosterone levels in both men and women but decreases with age. Nerve damage caused by diabetes and other conditions can make it hard for men to achieve and sustain an erection. And low levels of estrogen in women often lead to dry vaginal tissue, making intercourse uncomfortable.

Don’t Assume Your Partner Is No Longer Interested

Age-related sexual problems and the worry that may accompany these issues sometimes get in the way of enjoying a fulfilling sex life. Don’t assume your partner is no longer interested in you or an active sex life. Many of the issues that cause sexual problems in older adults can be improved. Try to keep the romance alive outside of the bedroom; you may be surprised at how your intimate life in the bedroom improves as a result. Sex at 50 plus can be rewarding and strong.

The Bottom Line

Age-related changes, while frustrating, can provide opportunities to try new things to keep the romance alive. Complement each other often and with sincerity. Dance in the kitchen. Hold hands in the car. Communicate well and often and involve a professional to resolve old issues if you need a little extra help. Explore what you can do to change your usual sex routine. Finally, as we know physical health is very important for sexual health, try to exercise regularly and eat healthfully. Intimacy can make you happy no matter your age – it just may take a little more work than when you were younger.

FAQs About the Challenges of Sex at 50Plus

Here are some commonly asked questions about the challenges of sex at 50plus.

What are some common challenges that people face regarding sex in their 50s and beyond?

Some common challenges include changes in libido, hormonal shifts, erectile difficulties, vaginal dryness, body image concerns, communication issues, and dealing with chronic health conditions.

How can hormonal changes impact sexual health in this age group?

Hormonal changes, such as menopause in women and andropause in men, can lead to decreased sexual desire, vaginal dryness, and changes in erectile function. These changes can impact overall sexual satisfaction.

Is it normal to experience a decrease in sexual desire as I age?

Yes, a decrease in sexual desire can be normal due to hormonal changes, stress, health conditions, and other factors. However, maintaining open communication with your partner and seeking professional advice can help address this issue.

Are there solutions for erectile difficulties in men at this age?

Yes, there are medical treatments available for erectile difficulties, including medications, vacuum devices, and implants. Consulting a healthcare professional can help determine the best approach for your specific situation.

How does vaginal dryness affect sexual comfort and pleasure for women?

Vaginal dryness can lead to discomfort and pain during intercourse. Using lubricants, and moisturizers, and speaking with a healthcare provider can help manage this challenge.

What impact can chronic health conditions have on sexual activity?

Chronic health conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, and arthritis can affect sexual function and desire. Managing these conditions through medication, lifestyle changes, and medical advice can help mitigate their impact on your sex life.

How can communication issues with a partner be addressed?

Open and honest communication with your partner is crucial. Share your concerns, desires, and challenges, and listen to their perspective as well. Couples therapy or counseling can provide a safe space for these discussions.

Are there emotional or psychological factors that affect sex at this age?

Yes, emotional factors like stress, anxiety, and body image concerns can impact sexual satisfaction. Engaging in relaxation techniques, mindfulness, and seeking therapy can help address these challenges.

How can I maintain intimacy if physical challenges are limiting sexual activity?

Intimacy is not solely reliant on sexual activity. Focus on emotional connection, non-sexual physical touch, and shared experiences to maintain intimacy with your partner.

Comments 3

Nan Bar says:

5 years ago

In one of your articles, you wrote:

One older couple I spoke with said a satisfying sexual relationship is important to their quality of life. “We still see each other as romantic and attractive”, they said. When I asked them for their secret, they explained the trick keeping the romance alive is an essential part of sex in this phase of life.

BUT you left out the most important part of the article… you never told what they explained. i.e., the trick to keeping the romance alive.

- LFpublisher says:
  
  5 years ago
  
  Thanks for your comment…you are right. Looks like I need to do a follow-up interview.
  
  - LFpublisher says:
    
    5 years ago
    
    Hi Nan – Maybe this article will be helpful
    https://50plus-today.com/marriage-aint-easy-keep-romance-alive-long-term/