by Ellen Blake
Is satisfying and enjoyable sex at age 50 plus impossible?
No – absolutely not. In fact, studies conducted over the last two decades show older adults have sex well in their golden years. If physically healthy and active, including sexually, people don’t tend lose their passion. The desire for physical contact with another human being doesn’t diminish with age.
We still crave intimacy as we age, but the nature of it evolves.
Our bodies inevitably change when we grow older, and as a result, our sex lives change. Sex may not necessarily lead to intercourse as was generally the case when we were younger.
For some, sex actually becomes more passionate and comfortable as we age. Simple acts of affection such as a hug, a kiss, or just lying close together in bed can be very meaningful. There are fewer distractions, more time and privacy, and no worries about pregnancy. Perhaps more importantly, couples in long-term relationships often share a special bond.
Maintaining a good sex life is not always easy; it takes work. Sexuality is a balance of emotional and physical issues.
Unresolved relationship issues can cause sex related problems. How you feel may affect what you want to do, and what you are able to do. And as we age, our bodies change, including our weight,skin and muscle tone and some of us worry we are no longer attractive to our partners.It’s essential to discuss your feelings openly, and if talking is difficult for you as a couple, think about seeing a therapist.
Know that you are not alone. Physical issues affecting intimacy are fairly common with older adults. Some medications such as those used to treat high blood pressure and depression can reduce libido. Passion is not as strong as testosterone levels in both men and women decrease with age. Nerve damage caused by diabetes and other conditions can make it hard for men to achieve and sustain an erection. And low levels of estrogen in women often leads to dry vaginal tissue, making intercourse uncomfortable.
Age-related sexual problems and the worry that may accompany these issues sometimes get in the way of enjoying a fulfilling sex life.
Don’t assume your partner is no longer interested in you or in an active sex life. Many of the issues that cause sexual problems in older adults can be improved. Try to keep the romance alive outside of the bedroom; you may be surprised at how your intimate life in the bedroom improves as a result. Sex at 50 plus can be rewarding and strong.
THE BOTTOM LINE? Age related changes, while frustrating, can provide opportunities to try new things to keep the romance alive.
Compliment each other often and with sincerity. Dance in the kitchen. Hold hands in the car. Communicate well and often, and involve a professional to resolve old issues if you need a little extra help. Explore what you can do to change your usual sex routine. Finally, as we know physical health is very important for sexual health, try to exercise regularly and eat healthfully.
Intimacy can make you happy no matter your age – it just may take a little more work than when you were younger.
related article:
Marriage Ain’t Easy – Tips to Keep the Romance Alive Long Term
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In one of your articles, you wrote:
One older couple I spoke with said a satisfying sexual relationship is important to their quality of life. “We still see each other as romantic and attractive”, they said. When I asked them for their secret, they explained the trick keeping the romance alive is an essential part of sex in this phase of life.
BUT you left out the most important part of the article… you never told what they explained. i.e., the trick to keeping the romance alive.
Thanks for your comment…you are right. Looks like I need to do a follow-up interview.
Hi Nan – Maybe this article will be helpful
https://50plus-today.com/marriage-aint-easy-keep-romance-alive-long-term/